The IVF procedure is not easy for either partner, as it is an emotional roller coaster. Each appointment is filled with anxiety usually followed by a recalibration of expectations. While it has been “tough” for me, I must admit that my road is a cakewalk as compared with Molly. What started with acupuncture and vitamins for her has progressed to 2 shots of Lupron a day to today, where there are 4 shots a day. My regimen of Doxicycline and vitamins is definitely a walk in the park.

My role is completely support. I try to support in any way possible throughout each day, having found a couple of areas that I think are valuable – especially because they may not be noticed:

• Being involved with all of the shots. Things as simple as getting the supplies ready, filling the needles, and collecting the trash. It is the least that I can do!
• As the Gonal RFF pen is quite a bit more intimidating than the Lupron shot, I administer it each time. We double check each other on each step (setting the dose, pulling the prescription, etc), but I do the actual injection. I remain as calm and professional as possible throughout to provide support.
• The dishes! While we have always  done a great job of sharing responsibilities, the least I can do is step up to do the dishes each night to make life a bit easier on Molly.
• The laundry! Nothing like clothes piling up in the hamper to aggravate an already stressful time!
• Attending every doctor appointment with Molly. While I am decorative during the actual appointment, we are in this together and need each other’s support throughout.

I am always looking for additional ways to support throughout this process. If you have any additions, please feel free to add to the comments below!